Some people say to find a sexual partner is easy for a woman. They think, women - single or married - just have to walk into  to the first bar or night club, and more than a few males will be willing to serve her needs. Maybe they are right, but I am talking about a competitive sex partner for quality sex. To find a competitive male sex partner not that simple for a single woman. By the way no woman should looking for sex partner in a regular bar, except if she is looking for a one night stand.

The website like this or the swingers club is the best place to find experienced male lovers.  

First I would place an ad and because a picture tells more than a 1000 words I always place an photo ad with a text something like: "Single woman looking for a single guy for casual sex. Contact me with photo only. G rated okay." Plus I explain clearly what I like and what I want. Usually I get few hundred replies in a two weeks time period. Two weeks might produce 4 good replies. All the others are just a waste of the time. They fail for simple reasons.

I always make it clear what I want and what I don't, and what I like and what I don't. I guess a few of the guys don't read my ad until the end.  They wrote something like this: "I have got a 10 inches long and 6 inches thick cock, and I can go all night long". A 10 inch long cock is very nice, but I am not looking for guy with a 10 inch cock. I asked contact with picture only and they did not attach a picture of themselves. I don't deal with replies like this.

A 10 inch  long cock is  nice, but for me the size is not everything.  Maybe there are women who don't care about the guys, only if they have extra large dick. But I care more about the guy's human value, than his dick. I like guys who introduce themselves with a few friendly words and let me know what they like and don't, their location etc. They prove that, they have read my ad and they can provide those things that I looking for. Also they attach a G rated pictures. If they have a 10 inches cock, I will find out it anyway when the times comes....

The next category is a cute and muscular guy's category. With every ad I place, I get several replies that are said: "I am nice and cute". Please attach a picture and let me decide how cute you are.   Who is cute for one, might not be cute for others. It is Exactly the same for  muscular men. If you are muscular attach a photo and I will see it. Talk about your value, that I can not se on the picture. If you don't you will not have sexual relationship with me.

About photo attachments. Don't send heavy files. Everything is bigger than 300K consider heavy. Make that picture file small. Lots of guys email a photo, including with all their living room or their car and the guy is just a small part of the pictures. I do not interested in your car, I just would like to see you. Please cut that picture. Not everybody has a broadband internet connection, and large files take times to  download, and few of them in the inbox fill fill up any email program's inbox. The second mistake to send close genital pictures. Woman like me have see male genitals. If I want to see it, I will ask. If the ad doesn't ask for it, don't email it. If things goes fine, I will see it for real....

The next category is the head game. I got to the point when I selected few ads. Email comes, email goes, photo exchanges, IM or ICQ chats and everything looks fine. Time to set up meetings. Few ads fail again. Owners of those ads always find some excuse not to meet. Family problems, workplace problems, sickness. The excuses are endless. These guys are the head gamers. They just waste my time. Why they do this? I am not sure, maybe the pictures what they mailed are not their own, maybe they are married or who knows why....

I always hope that first replies are true from the guys and those guys know what it means sex only. I have talked about this problem with other swinger ladies and this is one of their biggest problems also.

Single guys complain a lot about not getting anywhere with swingers women and with swingers couples. They complain how hard for them to get into the lifestyle. If you are a single man and read all the above you know why. If you would like to be active and "successful"  in the lifestyle, as a single guy,  see the above few things and keep them in your mind. Plus be clean and  polite all the time. And when the possibility comes, be up for it. Don't give up. If one of your first try did not work out, be sincere and try again.  Sooner or later you will find what you looking for. And if you get into the lifestyle and you are "good" the news flies fast. People will refer you to their friends... and you can have as much fun, as much as you wish.