Are you thinking about having an erotic party?

Over the years it seems around Halloween, New Years and Valentines Day's some questions like a ghost -  keep coming back. One of them is "I'd like to organize an erotic party but I am not sure how should I start ..." Or I would like to organize an  Halloween Masquerade party. How should I start...

How should you start?

At Halloween, X-mass or Valentines Day, the basics are the same.

At first you have to make a decision what kind of lifestyle party you going to organize. On-premises (which mean intercourse allowed on the premises) or Of-premises (which mean intercourse not allowed on the premises). In some countries illegal to organize and held on-premises parties and in some others illegal to organize in public place in restaurants or hotel room.

It is depends on a lot of things. We are talking about a lifestyle party. To have a lifestyle party you need to be active in the lifestyle and need to know other active lifestyle people. If you are "new bie" I suggest  to you, first visit a local swingers club a few times, then someone might invite you to a party and if you have liked that happened there, you might to start to thinking about having your own party. If you know the local swingers community, than you just have to invite some of your lifestyle buddies.

To host a lifestyle party, is pretty much the same as host any other party. Only the reason for a party and the guests are different.

I think if you are experienced party organizer, you are not reading this page. First to make the party happen you need to have a location. Where would it be? In your home? Is it big enough? What about the neighbours? Are you going to invite them? Or should you co-organize your party with your friends? Maybe their home is a better choice.  Bigger house, better location, or they might have a hot tub... Also you can organize your party in a hotel room.

Okay, you have found a location. Right now you have to thinking about how you will get your guests into the party mood. With inexperienced people, your lifestyle party might turn to be a regular party. And you do not want this to happen. Just some candles and sexy music will not turn people on. You might have to do more. And there are several things that you can do. The simplest one is to invite at least two experienced couples. They will get things started. If you don't know anybody with lifestyle experience, and if you have money you should spice up your party with professionals.  I do not mean with prostitutes, but with erotic dancers or with an erotic massage etc.

The other possibility is to mix your party with another party. Mix it with lingerie or a sex toys party. Lingerie parties aren't just for the ladies anymore. You can select the models from your guests. If you think this is to much of a headache, you can find a company, on the net, who will come to your door and they will do their lingerie demos.

A sex toys party is more spicier. You should think about it as a Tupperware party for dildos. Also there are companies who will come to your party to show their toys demo. Once again rules and regulation. In several US States talking about and showing how to use sex toys is criminal activity and penalise with JAIL time (even in the privacy your home).

I already have gave you four ideas that will spice up your lifestyle party. Either one of them is going to get people loosened up. However the success depends on who you have invited. Who should you invite? Well, there are your lifestyle friends from personal contacts. Also you can ask the invited people to bring one of their lifestyle friend. You have to make clear a few things to everyone. The most important is: It is should be clear to every invited person, your party will be a lifestyle party. And then you should make it clear also, this party will be for couples only, or there will be singles too. Plus a lot of people likes to know it, how many people will be there.

You have to remember, it will happen in your place or in a hotel, or somewhere else, but space is limited. You do not over invite! How many people fit into your living room, bedroom and kitchen? Keep it in your mind.

By now you should have all of the details worked out. You should  have a place, a date and a guest list. You just have to sent the invitations out. You should not make it too formal. Email your friends about your party, and set up a date to them to confirm their arrive.  Of course you have to do this in a few weeks in advance. When the confirmation date passes by and they did not contact you, give them a call and ask them, will they come or not. Ask them politely and let them know the size of party place is limited and if they won't come, others more than happy to take their place. If they say they will be there, you have to make it sure they know the directions to the place of the party.

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Have some finger foods like cheese and crackers and coffee and pop. You should not buy alcohol. Ask your guest to bring their own. You should put condoms to several very visible places. Places that can be see with the condoms at the time of arrival. Your guest might or might not use them, however this is a good reminder what kind of party is your party.  It is your party, it means you set up the basic rules. You should everyone know your rules for the party  (if you have any). Sure, the rules shouldn't have to be stated over and over again, but it's always a good idea to let your guest know them when they arrived. What is in my mind? For example:

• No means no.
• Try keep the noise down, because of the neighbourhood or other hotel guests.
• Limit the alcohol drinking. It should be a lifestyle party, not a drinking party.  Rude drunk people will be asked to leave.
• Smoking - non smoking - inside - outside.
• If you have a limitation with XXX play, show everyone where the play area is.

I hope I did not leave anything out and I hope if you organize your party as it stated above, it will be one hell of a erotic party!

Remember! Swinging is more than sex. Swingers love to "socialize" and of course love to have fun, and love to have sex. That is why they swing. However the  a "regular" swingers party is not like the "All You can Eat" Chinese restaurant. Some people goes to party to find new curious people and after the party they will have their very own privet party. What I try to say here, just because you get invited to a swingers party, that doesn't mean you will have sex all night with several different person. It means only one think - you might meet with open minded people.

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